The Parties Make Decisions Differently
In addition to what I discussed in the "One of the Parties Does Not Want a Divorce" post, another problem arises if the parties have different styles of decision making. Big decisions take time and the decision to divorce is not an exception. The spouse that wants the divorce has already made his or her decision, but the other spouse usually requires additional time in order to process things and think them through carefully.
Even if the non-moving spouse is trying as hard as they can to adjust to the fact that a divorce is imminent, he or she may have a differing style of decision making than does the moving party.
Some of us can comfortably make large purchases more quickly than others can, and some of us are more methodic in our thinking and need more time to contemplate making the same decision.
This mostly overlooked barrier rears its head when human nature causes the moving party to lose patience with the non-moving party's failure to proceed at a speed that is acceptable to the moving party.
The moving party must always honor the way that the other party processes his or her choices. The moving party must also be patient and allow the non-moving partner's timetable to control the situation. To do otherwise, is to invite trouble that can easily lead to a painful, lengthy, costly divorce.
