We Don't Know How to Get Through to Our Spouse
This obstacle is a classic. It involves something that logic should prevent us from attempting, yet we all try to do it anyway (your blog host included). We invariably try to settle our divorce case by relying upon the same communication skills that probably caused the divorce to begin with.
In many cases, our inability to communicate effectively with our partner may very well be the primary reason for the marital breakup. Even when poor communication isn't the biggest reason, it always plays some role in bringing our marriage to an end.
Trying to convince our partner to agree to an early and a friendly divorce settlement requires that we be on the same page with them during our settlement discussions. This requires an extraordinary degree of cooperation and communicative ability.
If we were unable to achieve and maintain this high level of communication during the marriage when things were good, what chance do we have of doing it during a divorce when things are bad?
Thus, it is foolish on our part to rely upon something to keep us out of trouble when its failure to work is most likely the reason that we are in trouble to begin with.
