Making the decision to divorce or coming to grips with our spouse's decision to divorce is always difficult, to say the very least. However, once we finally accept that our marriage is indeed heading for divorce, we find ourselves facing the next difficulty.
Since most of us do not like agony or throwing our money away, the next difficulty has to do with minimizing the pain and cost of the divorce itself.
We want to get the settlement that we deserve and we don't want to have to waste time, energy, and money getting it. This means we must achieve a friendly out-of-court settlement as quickly and as easily as possible.
To do this we must be able to persuade our soon-to-be ex to join us in working toward a cooperative resolution - one that is to our liking.
Before we can reasonably expect to do this, we must be aware of nine invisible obstacles that stand in our way. How we handle these obstacles often spells the difference between a peaceful divorce and a train wreck.
Some of the obstacles are everyday, common sense items that we are already somewhat familiar with. However, very few of us truly understand how destructive they can be.
Without being forewarned, we normally tend to brush them off and minimize their impact.
The nine follow up posts will identify these invisible barriers.
