How Do I Keep My Divorce Friendly? Part II
In order to be able to persuade your soon-to-be ex spouse to agree to a mutually acceptable out of court settlement, you must be able to keep their mind open and willing to consider a compromise, so that a settlement may occur.
There are two parts to doing this. The first part is simple to understand, and the second part requires motivation. All you need to know about the first is that you must refrain from aggravating your spouse. It all starts there. If you aggravate him or her, you lose. If you don't aggravate them, you have your foot in the door and you stand a chance.
Non-aggravated spouses in divorce are typically less defensive, less untrusting, less suspicious, less vengeful, less stubborn, and are generally less difficult to deal with. Unhampered spouses have room in their minds for compromise and this is the first thing you must accomplish.
The second part - the part that requires motivation - requires that you do what is necessary to keep your partner's mind clear, unhampered, and open to compromise.
We accomplish this by doing the last thing in the world that we want to do, despite it being the only thing in the world that actually works, and this is to be nice to them. Yes, I said "Nice."
Be sure to look at Part III.
