This is the second post in a series of posts that reveal how judges, lawyers, mediators, and other divorce insiders settle their own divorces quickly and without having to fight it out in court.
Begin your spousal settlement discussions softly and slowly.
You must do everything you can to create a cooperative climate at the very beginning of your settlement conversations with your spouse. You have little chance of success if these discussions start out in an atmosphere that is not conducive to a peaceful resolution.
It is important that you speak in a calm and soothing tone of voice.
This transmits compassion and sincerity and makes it possible for you to overcome your spouse's resistance. Speaking in a loud voice will not help you achieve a divorce settlement; it will only irritate your soon-to-be ex and provoke them to get loud in return.
It is up to you to set the tone.
Someone has to be nice first, or a divorce war is certain. You cannot rely on your soon-to-be ex to take the initiative; so, this task is up to you. If you don't take this seriously, a calm, quick, and inexpensive settlement is not going to happen, and you will find yourself sitting in a courtroom hearing a judge say, "Call your first witness."
